I pride myself on walking the walk, while I’m talking the talk.
You know – I wouldn’t ask you to do something that I wouldn’t do myself. A few weeks ago, a trusted Power Circle member of mine read the introduction to a book I am writing and said to me, “What is this? This isn’t you. We need to work on your truth.” Ouch. And she was totally right.
In the last few weeks, I’ve realized that I’m not being as brave as I would ask you to be. I’ve found myself quieting our message at Beacon so it sounds better and doesn’t offend anyone – so it fits better in a pretty box. I’ve found myself worried that if I tell my truth it will turn people away, or that people will attack my truth. And after my friend’s gentle intervention, I knew I needed to change. I needed to find my courage and get brave. Fast.
Having courage is a tough gig. One that definitely impacts our food and weight issues. How does that go? When we are living in shame and fear and dimming our light, we are practicing the opposite of courage. That leads us to secrecy, silence and judgment, which leads us directly to the cookies, cake and candy. What a miserable, light-dimming rabbit hole!
When I don’t know what to do, and I need to find solution, I seek out one of my teachers – guides who have walked before me and can give me – and us – some tips in helping to solve my problems.
This week, I turned to Brene Brown. This five minute video gave me a ton of clarity. Here are three take aways to help us start to let go of our fear and shame and move into BRAVERY:
1. Worthiness, which is truly our end game, is a practice. It’s not a one-time-buy, set-it-and-forget-it game. We must practice and practice and practice it over and over and over. Sound familiar?
2. We practice worthiness by (gasp!) practicing VULNERABILITY. Yup! Living in uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure – taking off our armor and letting the light in. When we are so busy protecting ourselves from being hurt, we prevent people from knowing us, seeing us, and connecting to us. And that’s the cure for all things.
3. Courage is showing up, trying your best, and letting people know you care about something – especially when you don’t know what the outcome is going to be.The skill and the success is in the TRYING, not in the outcome.
After my dose of Brene, I’m ready to take a daily Wonder Woman Pose, and live more fearlessly, with bravery and courage. Who’s coming with me?
I commit to tell my truth, and stop dimming my light. What can you do this week to practice vulnerability and courage? How can you live in a deeper truth so you can be seen and heard and connect with others? Can you share your truth with a friend? Can you say yes to something that scares you? Can you say no to something that you know isn’t right for you? Can you simply watch the Brene video? And if you want to share your bravery goal with me, I would LOVE to hear all about it.
Remember: the skill is in the practice. I totally believe in you, Buddies, and I’m practicing alongside you. #yourenotalone #WEgotthis