When we struggle with compulsive eating, putting others and their needs before our own can become a pretty standard routine. Today, make the decision to put your needs and recovery first so that you can get closer to reaching your goals and being more present for others!
Buzz on the Beacon street is all about prioritizing our recovery. Most of us would say – under oath – that finding permanent solutions to our compulsive eating is our top priority. We would say that we would do anything for that freedom. Turns out, when push comes to shove that is way harder than it sounds. #truestory
Ever been at a party with a bunch of people and really at risk of overeating (or actually overeating), knowing you need support and it feels impossible to use a skill or make a call? Ever skip getting to the grocery store or yoga class because you have a sick cat, dog, child or spouse? Ever cancel your support group or coaching sessions because you have to help a struggling friend? The list goes on and on and on.
In the moment, I know it truly feels like taking care of someone else is the absolute best and right thing to do. You don’t want to trouble anyone, you don’t want to let anyone down, you feel guilty, you feel obligated. Boy do I get it. Here’s what I also know: almost every time that we sacrifice our recovery for someone else, our recovery from compulsive eating suffers. It ends up hitting the food in some way – whether it’s a missed meal that turns into a larger one later, an extra snack, more than your share of brown rice, or a full-blown ice cream binge, when we aren’t taking care of ourselves first, our wise minds know. And they react.
Those airlines have the life instructions right, you know: Put your oxygen mask on first. Before your BFF, before your spouse, before your kid, before your dog. Put simply: you can’t give what you don’t have.
Running around making sure everyone has their oxygen, sacrificing your own oxygen source isn’t loving; it’s martyrdom. So often, the most loving, least selfish thing you can do is put your metaphoric oxygen mask on first. First, it makes you a wonderful example and role model for self-care. More importantly, it puts you atthe very top of your game to approach life’s challenges and be helpful to the people (and pets!) you love.
Prioritizing your oxygen mask is, as we say at Beacon, a problem to be solved. And you need to know that sacrificing yourself and your needs is usually a long-standing and ingrained habit. So it may take a minute and a bunch of attempts to correct your course, so be gentle. #pinkyswear #donoharm
What is one thing you can do this week to prioritize putting your oxygen mask on first? If you have to take care of someone or something this week, can you take a break during it to refresh your wise mind? Can you say no to a plan that feels like an obligation? Can you say yes to some time for self-care? When it comes to learning how to take better care of yourself, something is always better than nothing, and even the head nodding while reading this Buzz is progress towards taking better care of your greatest commodity: YOU.