As summer picnics and events are in full swing, you might notice some tricky questions coming up about your BED disorder.
Happy summer – happy belated summer solstice! We’ve passed the longest day of the year … summer is in full swing!
I hope you are maxing and relaxing, enjoying summer and the big beautiful life you are building. With summer fun comes parties, people, and socializing. Buzz on the Beacon street this week is about handling unsolicited questions from others – be they your besties, your family, your colleagues, or complete strangers.
It can seem that everyone has an opinion on your sustainable solution to your issues with BED disorder, right? When you’re at the beach and people are commenting on why you’re not eating the ice cream; when you’re at the party and people are asking how in the world you’re not eating the pizza and dessert; when you’re at the work cocktail party and people are asking how you’re not eating the mini-cupcakes. “How do you do it?” “You’re SO GOOD.” “Are you going to do this for the rest of your life?”
All these questions can make a Buddy’s head spin – and even worse than that, they can take us away from our best selves and our long-term goals. #nope #notinterested #nowayjose
Fear not, Buddies. Managing unsolicited questions and comments from others is, as we say at Beacon, a problem to be solved. Here are the quick and dirty tips:
Have your responses right and ready.
You see it all of the time – celebrities, politicians, business icons – any time they are asked a tough question, they have a prepared and finessed answer. Time to make your statement for your media, making sure it’s concise, easy to explain, and doesn’t cross any of your own personal limits. That can range anywhere from, “I’m not in the mood to eat ice cream today” all the way to “Sugar and flour don’t sit well in my system” to “My doctor suggested I give up refined carbohydrates for my heath” to anything else you can think of and endorse. And remember, if you don’t want to answer, you can just say, “I don’t feel like talking about this.” No is a complete sentence….
Don’t take it personally.
Here’s something interesting I’ve found in my time of people asking me endless questions about what I’m eating: it’s very rarely (if ever) about me, and, almost always, about the other person. People who don’t have issues with BED disorder may be asking to be polite, but will easily shrug their shoulders and change topic when you say no thanks. Those who are relentless about finding out the nooks and crannies and the “do you eat fruit” and “are you going to do this forever?” are – for better or worse – not asking about you, but about themselves. And they might be Buddies in the making! So long story short: QTIP – Quit Taking It Personally. And you rock. #forreals
Don’t let their image of deprivation steal your experience of liberation!
Just in case QTIPping is a smidge harder than it sounds, remember this: you are rocking this. You are finally finding a sustainable solution for your issues with food and weight. Can you even believe that??? I know. As I mentioned before, you rock. So please don’t let someone else’s uneducated view of your new-found and heard-earned liberation sound like deprivation. I promise you, going back to your old ways of bites and binges is not as shiny as it looks when someone is highlighting how awesome ice cream cake is. Take a breath, have a reality check, and proceed with your awesome recovery.