Self care is a crucial component to overcoming binge eating.
Though I’m not a mom, I watch the many moms I know and love sacrifice big time in the name of their big job of being a mom. Often, it’s to the tune of skimping on their own self care. And so many of us – moms or not – can relate. We prioritize our children, or our jobs, or our families, or our friends, or our pets, or, or, or … before ourselves. Sound familiar?
We can easily think self care = selfish. We say we don’t have the time, or the energy to take care of ourselves. This is a big part of the puzzle with our issues with food and weight – we start to associate foods that really harm us (hi chocolate and doughnuts!) as ways to treat ourselves or help us to relax and unwind. And when we do that we pour miracle grow on an already tricky situation.
Are you reading along, nodding your head, agreeing that self care is selfish or impossible? That finding time to take care of you feels like a luxury or an impossibility? Uh oh. Stop a minute right there. We need some redefining … ASAP.
Self care is a necessity in overcoming binge eating – not just for the freedom and success you want from your issues with food and weight, but for ALL your problems. Integrating self care into your life on the daily is a necessity and, as we say at Beacon, is a problem to be solved.
When I was first starting Beacon, I was crispy I was so burned-out. One of my dear friends suggested I take a vacation. I looked at him like he had fifteen eyes. Did he not understand that I was starting a business? That I didn’t have the time or the money or the energy to go on vacation? Was he bananas? He gently said to me, “Molly, you’re the product. You are what people are investing in. You are what is at the base of creating things here. If you’re not the best Molly, you really don’t have much.” Oof. He was right (and I was waaaaaaaay wrong). Though it wasn’t easy to find the time, the money, and, frankly, the self-worth, I took a few days off on a low-low-low-budget vacay and came back refreshed. I seriously felt like a new woman.
Perhaps my little vacation homily left you feeling less-than inspired or even invalidated. “Molly, my kids/job/husband/wife/dog takes over my whole life.” “Molly, you had some money to go on that vacation.” “Molly, you just don’t understand how hard it is for me.” If that’s the case, we need to get you some self care strategies STAT. Especially if life feels this hard. Remember, you are the product. Without you, there ain’t nothing, Buddy – and you and everyone around you deserves the very best you. #truestory
Lucky for us, self care is a skill: if we don’t have it, we can get it. And the coolest thing about self care is that a little goes a long way. I’m not asking for a total life overhaul here or an expensive trip to the spa – start small. Even the tiniest steps to put yourself first count towards the greater whole – a 3-minute meditation, prepping your food on Sundays, carving out 5 minutes to call or text your bestie, taking a quick walk during a hectic work day. More advanced? How about not answering your phone for an afternoon, picking up an old hobby you once loved, or saying no to dinner plans or a family event so that you can have some down time to reboot? The list is endless and you will see that not only is self care WAY easier than you think, but also its benefits spill over into all areas of your life. #buyonegetall #moreismore
Overcoming binge eating requires a level of commitment to self care and recovery behaviors. Buddies, I say this from the bottom of my soul: YOU ARE WORTH PRIORITIZING. You’re a product worth investing in. Big time. I pinky promise.