I’ve been known to call the time between January and March “Camelot” – a little time of exhale where we don’t have much to plan for or worry about when it comes to our issues with food addiction and weight: a little calm before we have to take on the Spring holiday season of Passover and Easter.
Spring holiday season is a time ripe with history and story. And, it’s a time ripe with family and food, tricky to navigate with a food addiction. You know what I mean? Chocolate-covered matzoh and macaroons, Easter baskets, and don’t even get me started on those little marshmallow Peeps! Not to mention, lots of extended-sit-down lunches and dinners filled with home-cooked foods and family and friends you don’t get to see every day – for better or worse.
Spring holiday season can leave us feeling like a stuffed Easter bunny if we aren’t awake and aware. And, as we say at Beacon, that is a problem to be solved.
A few tricks of the trade for your Passover and Easter toolbox:
If you don’t have a plan, you have a problem. And we are here to SOLVE PROBLEMS, not create them, Buddy. A shrug of the shoulders, or my favorite rationalization, “I’ll figure it out,” is the anti-plan. You wouldn’t go on a road trip without a map and route, so please don’t go into your holiday festivities without those essential tools. And if you’re not down with making a big, elaborate plan for success, even the smallest of plans – “I’m only going to have one plate.” “I will absolutely stay away from all forms of dessert.” “I will show up late to avoid cocktail hour.” – will help to set your compass towards your true north. Making a plan and doing your darnedest to follow it, to the best of your ability, is the first step for holiday success.
Be sure to QTip with your family and guests. Holidays can be ripe with family members that you may not want to be spending your Sunday, Monday, or Tuesday night with. It may be filled with guests asking you inappropriate and awkward questions: Who are you dating? Why aren’t you eating that? Why are your children screaming? Why did you decide to wear that blouse? You’re never eating sugar again? You get the gist. Your skill, Buddies? QTIP. Quit Taking It Personally. When you can let go, rise above the comments, and stay true to your wisest mind and very best self – remembering that these questions are a function of the other person’s issues and not yours, you have another recipe for success. #winwin
Skill. It. Up. Remember, our skills are here to help us to not make bad situations worse. And, sometimes Seders and Easter lunches can turn preeetttttttyyyyyyy ugly. In those cases, don’t underestimate the power of a time out: some water splashed on your face, calling a Buddy, playing with your nephew, washing the dishes or even taking three big deep breaths to help pass the time of letting an icky feeling or urge pass. Skills don’t work if you don’t use them, and, when you do, they can be pretty life-changing. #dontknockittillyoutriedit #skillsrock
Keep in mind the integrity we were talking about a few weeks ago. How do you want to feel and who do you want to be at these events? Putting that at the forefront of your holiday time can make all the difference, and can be even better than finding the afikomen AND the hidden Easter egg all at once! And keep in mind: if your plans go waaaay south, remember the power of getting right back on track – it’s the second-best holiday gift you can give yourself.